In all cases, Type Two people want to be loved themselves and believe the way to earn and deserve this love is to give of themselves. It is very hurtful to them when others, particularly their beloved, do not reciprocate. They feel misused, but have trouble admitting it because they want so much to be generous.

Twos are often attractive and pay attention to how to make themselves appealing to those they care about. Sometimes flirtatious, sometimes self-sacrificing, sometimes possessive, they engage the attention of that important person in their lives. Rather than being leaders, they would prefer to be the special confidante or invaluable helper to the leader, satisfied to be an intimate of powerful or important people.

When Twos were children they needed guidance and protection but experienced it only indirectly or haphazardly. It is surprising how many Twos lost their fathers at an early age to death, divorce, or a job requiring frequent travel or long days and nights away from home. Often blaming themselves for losing that key relationship due to their own failings, they unconsciously set out to become indispensable to whomever they believe could provide for their needs. Inside every Two is a child feeling envious that the other kids get what they want. They need to put self-pity aside, however, and instead learn to put themselves first, repsonding to their own needs and setting limits with others. Otherwise they are prone to eruptions of rage or, perhaps worse, to psychosomatic problems that can eventually disable them. Only when Twos are taking good care of themselves can their generous embracing love pour out into the world as a blessing to us all.

FAMOUS TWOS: Barbara Bush, Desmond Tutu, Monica Lewinsky, Mother Theresa, Sammy Davis, Jr., Florence Nightengale.